Keeping Sin in Perspective

This post by Matt Moore was timely in the wake of Kim Burrell’s statements earlier this week. Matt shares his thoughts on feeling that homosexuality was somehow different than any other sin, and how that mindset can undermine the potential for growth in one’s relationship to Jesus:

http://www.moorematt.org/not-an-anomaly/

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10 Truths

Matt Moore writes an encouraging post on his blog, sharing 10 truths that those struggling with same-sex attraction would do well to keep in mind:

http://www.moorematt.org/10-empowering-truths-for-the-same-sex-attracted-christian/

These truths actually apply to anyone struggling with chronic temptations, so feel free to pass his post along!

A Good Word from Across the Sea

We all know that just about anything spoken in English sounds better when spoken with a British accent.  Especially when it’s a good word from a brother in Christ.  Actually quite a few good words.

Living Out is an outreach listed on the resources tab, and I’ve appreciated the work that they are doing across the sea.  Here is a talk worth listening to:

You Are Not Your Sexuality

There and Back Again

Joe Dallas in a radio series on Homosexuality and the Bible – great teaching from a man who became a Christian during the Jesus movement, then left to embrace homosexuality and teach in a pro-gay church, and returned again to repentance and a new life in Christ.

http://www.refugefm.com/online-messages/

What is Reparative Therapy?

There is a great deal of misunderstanding of what Reparative Therapy is. For some, it means any attempt to counsel someone who is seeking a path away from same-sex attraction, whether that may lead to celibacy or a change in orientation with the potential for marriage. Others understand that it is actually a specific theory of the causation of homosexuality and a way to repair what is thought to be a mis-directed drive of sexual attraction.

The following is an article that gives a good description of this particular type of counseling:

http://www.biblicalcounseling.com/blog/what-wrong-with-reparative-therapy

As you can read elsewhere on my blog, (https://sswh.wordpress.com/2013/10/18/elements-of-change-solid-counseling-part-1/ & https://sswh.wordpress.com/2013/10/23/elements-of-change-solid-counseling-part-2/), I am thankful that in the counseling I received, there was not an attempt to pigeon-hole me into one particular type of counseling theory. I agree with Heath Lambert when he points out that not everyone’s life fits into the model that RT uses.

Someone recently asked me what I thought was the “cause” of homosexuality. There may be genetic and hormonal influences, but none which are definitive. (See the research which has been done on the sexual orientation of identical twins, as one example.) And there are influences in our environment, and none of those are definitive, either. (Not everyone who has been through sexual abuse as a child goes on to have same-sex attractions, for example.)

I believe that our sexuality and our sexual orientation is complex, and currently remains a mystery. In answer to the question of what is the “cause” of homosexuality, my reply is to point to the stars, and say that the factors are as numerous as they are.

I do find that Mr. Lambert’s critique falls short in that it is not too difficult to apply Biblical principals to the track that RT takes. I am glad that he does remember to mention that RT may well be helpful for some who have had the kind of upbringing that fits into this particular model.

There has been a movement to make any type of counseling for those seeking to leave homosexuality behind illegal. That is such an absurd idea to me – until I remember that so many people have bought into the line of thought that this kind of counseling is always damaging to individuals with same-sex attractions. This is part of the reason why it is important for those of us who have experienced a fluidity in our orientation – who have noted significant, sustainable change – to speak up and let our stories be known.

It Just So Happens…

I had a meeting earlier this week with the pastoral staff at my local church to share with them a little of my story of seeking and finding change in my orientation through Christ. I gave them a list of resources in hopes that they will pray and think through issues regarding sexuality a little more deeply, and hopefully open up avenues of ministry within our church.

It just so happens that several people behind the resources I’d listed were together on a panel this week at a conference just a few hours north of us – actually I believe this panel was occurring while I was speaking with my pastors! Some of the same questions came up in each of these discussions. I really enjoyed hearing the thoughtful responses of each person on this panel. Hope you will, too!

More Food For Thought From Dr. Rosaria Butterfield

Excellent article – worth your thoughtful reading:  http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/tgc/2014/02/14/you-are-whatand-howyou-read/?comments#comments#comment-119985

And I appreciate Julie Roger’s follow-up on Dr. Butterfield’s presentation at Wheaton:  http://julierodgers.wordpress.com/2014/02/17/rosaria-butterfield-and-the-space-for-more-stories/comment-page-1/#comment-4751